Delighting our spouse was once an absolute delight to us when we were newly in love and smitten with each other. Over the years it can be easy to fall into routines and habits and no longer excitedly and easily find ways to bring a smile to our spouse’s face and make them feel special. Love deepens and strengthens as we age but it can also bring new levels of delight and joy as we continue to be thoughtful towards each other.

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Below are some ideas of ways you can delight your spouse. Get creative and think of your own too but we encourage you to pick just one and make sure you do it in the next month. Don’t expect crazy changes in your marriage because you did one nice thing, but know that over time choosing to bring delight to your spouse will increase the level of joy you both have in each other.

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5 THINGS TO DELIGHT YOUR WIFE

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Give her a short massage

It doesn’t have to be a long elaborate ordeal involving oils and candles and soothing music, although I’m sure any wife would love this too. Simply take 3-5 minutes to rub her feet after a long day of chasing toddlers. Come up behind her and loosen that tension in her shoulders and neck after work. Grab some lotion and massage it into her legs or arms, for when does she have time to lotion her dry skin.

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Plan a few thoughtful questions to spark conversation

Spend a few minutes thinking up a question or two you could ask your wife after the kids go to sleep or before you go to bed. You can even look some up online or use a pack of conversation cards. Your wife will appreciate the intention shown to create emotional connection.

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Set aside an hour for your wife to be alone

Whether she would choose to take a bath or go for a run or get a coffee, creating that extra space for her without having to think about what the kids will do or when she will fit it in will help her feel refreshed.

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Pray for her

The comfort and rest a wife feels when her husband prays over her is part of the anointing in your role as husband. She may not be filled with enthusiasm and may even hesitantly say yes but if you ask her to pray over her and simply bless her and thank God for her and ask him to strengthen her, her spirit will respond in the gratitude of your covering over her.

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Come home with a surprise for her

It could be the classic flowers, a little treat or coffee after your morning meeting, a small candy from a quick stop at the store, a book she’s been wanting, a favorite picture of you two printed off at CVS, a nice smelling candle. It’s always nice to know someone was thinking of you even if it’s something small.

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5 THINGS TO DELIGHT YOUR HUSBAND

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Let him make the calls (stop arguing or talking back)

Your husband wants to know you trust him and believe in him and will follow him anywhere. He is never going to believe that if you are consistently arguing or overruling him on decisions. Let him take the lead on things or if he makes a decision or suggestion, go with it even if you have to swallow all your “wisdom”. Show him you trust him and he will feel loved and supported.

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Give him time to do something fun/hobby

Men need an outlet for their energy and drive, to be wild and have fun. Whether it’s a round of golf, a morning surf, an hour of video games, building or crafting a project, a dinner with friends, or time to read alone, your husband will know you care about his interests if you give him that time… without complaint or negative comment upon his return.

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Affirm Him in front of others

Rave about how wonderful he is in front of the kids (while he’s listening) or when out with friends tell a story about something he did really well. He wants to know you respect and admire him and there’s no better way to show him than to tell others how great he is.

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Make the first move

Initiate sex. That’s all that really needs to be said but a few pointers, choose a time you know will be good in terms of where the kids are and energy and stress levels. Also be sure to not just initiate but to also be interested, delighted to be uniting body and soul to the one you love.

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Dress to impress

Put on that dress he loves or the jewelry he got you or do your hair the way he likes and most of all smile. Laugh at his jokes, make him feel like you find him delightful. Men are visual and will feel loved by the effort you put in to making yourself pleasing to him.

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