Despite any stress or drama leading up to it, our wedding day is a time of celebration and rejoicing in the divine act of committing to love another for the rest of our lives. The wedding day is filled with anticipation and hope, vision for the life ahead. The people gathered, the delicious food, the festivities and dancing are what make the day memorable but what makes the day momentous is the promises that are given that day. What is really being celebrated is the vows that are made, the covenant.

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Yet often as life goes on, it’s the festivities and little fiascos of that day we remember. We spend little time in remembering the vows we made and our commitment to a love only meant to be separated by death.

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As our affections fluctuate and we find our focus being led away from our spouse to any number of things; the kids, hobbies, work, friends, technology, shopping, etc. taking time to remember our vows brings our marriage back into perspective.

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The thing about our vows is they aren’t about what the other person is promising. When we remember our vows it takes us away from blame and resentment and brings us back to what is within our power. We remember that we made a promise to love and serve a flawed individual until one of us dies. No matter what the other person is doing, whatever they are struggling with, however they are loving you, you can still fulfill your vow to love and serve them.

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That is when we truly display the divine nature of covenant. God always keeps his promises no matter how faithful or faithless we are. His covenants remain, he fulfills his vows regardless of whether we fulfill ours or not. Remembering our vows gives us the opportunity to experience God’s faithful love in a way that empowers us to continue fulfilling the vows we made.

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How you go about remembering your vows will vary and change but making a somewhat regular practice of it in your own way will invigorate your marriage in ways you didn’t expect.

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One Legacymaker family goes back to the beautiful outdoor space they got married at every year around their anniversary and read their vows to each other and remember the commitment they made.

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We have a wedding photo book with our vows written in it and each year on our anniversary we look at the pictures with our kids and reread our vows to each other out loud.

Another Legacymaker family did a little vow renewal ceremony on their 10th anniversary surrounded by their family and close friends. Everyone prayed over them after they recommitted to the promise they made and celebrated with pizza.

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And another goes on a special date each year where they talk about their marriage, hopes and dreams for the future of their life together and reflect on the vows they made. They eat the same cake they had at their wedding and listen to some of their favorite songs from that night.

Get creative and make it your own or take one of these ideas and run with it. Whatever you do, know that your marriage will be strengthened and your vision reinvigorated by taking time to remember the covenant you made.

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