Teaching our kids about the beauty and gift of sexuality in a healthy, God honoring way is a crucial piece to leaving a legacy. If you think about it, you have descendants to pass a legacy to only because of your sexuality.

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If we want our kids to know true covenant, and committed, faithful love, then we can’t avoid teaching them about God’s design for human sexuality. It’s something unavoidable in our sex-saturated culture today but the good news is it’s also an unavoidable topic in family life too, if you let it be. If we allow our kids questions and curiosities, and answer them honestly in an age appropriate way, without getting squeamish or awkward, the topic of human sexuality will very naturally come up.

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When you have another baby, when they see you and your spouse kissing, when a relative gets pregnant, when they see animals in nature mating… there are countless opportunities for this topic to come up naturally. As we embrace their questions and foster a safe space to talk about things like periods and puberty, sex and pornography, we have the chance to build our kids' confidence in who God made them to be and experience a life defined by covenant love instead of confusing pseudo love.

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Whatever your own experiences have been, there is no one better suited to talk to your kids about a healthy, God honoring sexuality than you, their parents. It may feel easier to avoid the conversations, brush off the questions, or simply hand them a book and bounce. But cultivating a healthy sexual culture in your home is your responsibility and God will give you the wisdom needed to approach those conversations and guide you in them.

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• Equipping ourselves is the first step. Asking God for wisdom and the right resources for your family is where to start. Then start educating yourself, read some of the books we recommend or people you respect would suggest. Look up some of the websites we listed and start digging, gain language for these topics and grow your confidence in how to go about talking to your kids about sex.

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• Next decide on how you want to approach educating your children about sexuality. Look through the list of resources below and choose the ones that stand out to you. Alternatively ask some friends or mentors for suggestions.

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• Finally be open and ready for the opportunities to speak into God’s design for our bodies and sexuality as situations and questions arise.

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Below are some resource recommendations to equip you on this journey of cultivating a healthy sexual culture in your home.

To Read as an Adult:

How and When to Talk to Your Kids About Sex by Stan and Brenna Jones

Mom, Dad, What’s Sex? Giving Your Kids a Gospel Centered View of Sex and Our Culture by Jessica Thomson and Joel Fitzpatrick

Raising Boys Who Respect Girls by Dave Willis

Rethinking Sexuality-God’s Design and Why It Matters by Julie Slattery

Porn Myth by Matt Fradd

The Tech-Wise Family by Andy Crouch

Every Parent’s Battle - A Family Guide to Resisting Pornography by Dan Spencer

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To Read With Your Kids:

About Sexuality

Series for kids that builds upon itself at different ages by Stan and Brenna Jones

• The Story of Me (ages 3-5)
• Before I Was Born (ages 5-8)
• What’s the Big Deal (ages 8-11)
• Facing the Facts (ages 11-14)

The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson

The Bare Facts: 30 Questions Your Parents Hope You Never Ask About Sex by Josh McDowell

A Student’s Guide to Culture by John Stonestreet and Brett Kunkle

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About Pornogrpahy

Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. by Kristen Jensen

Good Pictures Bad Pictures by Kristen Jensen

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography by Alexander Dina

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Websites and Resources

• Protectyoungeyes.com

• Birds and bees
• Josh Mcdowell Ministry - josh.org
• Gretaeskridge.com
• Fightthenewdrug.org

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